"SIS, EX GIRLFRIEND I DAH ADA BOYFRIEND BARU AND SHE SAID SHE'S HAPPY BUT WHY DIA STILL NAK CONTACT I??"

Hi girls & boys!

So pernah sekali tu ada one guy dm-ed me but tak ingat dah dekat mana. I think on IG.

He asked this question..

I pernah macam ni.. Masih lagi contact ex boyfriend while I was having a new boyfriend. Kenapa?

Meh I explain..

Korang faham tak perasaan yang selesa bercakap dengan someone yang dah kenal kita luar dalam, rajuk tawa kita, sedih hiba kita??

Dalam hidup, ada orang yang kita dah sebati hidup dengan dia. Berkongsi hampir setiap cerita dalam kehidupan kita. Lagilah bila pasangan yang click.

So bila dah break up tu, kita akan ada satu perasaan kehilangan 'kawan baik' who won't judge us, which is YOU! The ex..

Sebab dalam fasa macam ni, hanya ex boyfriend yang akan faham keadaan kita better than our bestfriend.

But then, it didn't mean that she's still love you and didn't love her boyfriend. It's just, she needs time..

Perlukan masa untuk selesakan diri hidup tanpa 'bestfriend' dia ni.. It's not that easy untuk buang seseorang macam tu je dari hidup kita.

It's also not that easy untuk ubah tabiat kita yang bercerita kepada someone yang tahu A-Z pasal kita.

Nak berubah dari satu point kepada satu point tu memang lambat, but time will make you there.

I tahu dan faham, you sebagai ex boyfriend akan sakit. Sebab rasa macam dia bagi harapan.. But put that aside, she needs you as her bestfriend..

At least until she's comfortable with her current situation.

For her boyfriend, give her time too. But at the same, try as hard as you can to be there for her.

Maksudnya setiap kali dia memerlukan someone, you as a boyfriend BE THERE. Cuma overcome her ex boyfriend.

Nanti by time, your girlfriend akan stop because she feel 'complete' & 'enough'.

Kalau tanya I, kalau boyfriend I contact ex girlfriend dia, I tak marah ke? Will I do the same??


YES. I WILL.

Kenapa? Sebab I faham perasaan selesa dengan someone. Kena bagi peluang dan ruang untuk someone percaya & selesa dengan kita. That's the thing.

Kalau misalkata, boyfriend I getback to his ex girlfriend?

Well, pergilah. He's happy with her. Comfortable with her. Kenapa i nak kena deny?

Oh I ni simple orangnya.

Kita bukan hak sesiapa & sesiapa pun bukan hak kita.

Whatever it is, nak happy dalam relationship, try to understand each other!